How To Be Happy

You cannot create a perfect life, but you can create a happy,full-filling life no matter where you are. Happiness is a choice just like anger and sadness. I'm going to be teaching you how to reach your full potential, make the most out of life, and be happy!


Control Your Thoughts/Feelings
  1. Always think positively. Hear no evil. Speak no evil. See no evil. Think no evil!
  2. Think only of what you want in life. Never think about what you do not want.
  3. Dwell on the end result of what you want. Believe and feel like you already have it.
  4. Filter your thoughts like a screen on a window.
  5. Watch The Secret.
  6. Read The Power, The Secret, The Magic by Rhonda Byrne.
Quotes:
"Thoughts lead to acts, acts lead to habits, habits lead to character-and our character will determine our eternal destiny."

"You become what you think."

"Everything you are is a result of everything you thought"

"Everything you were, is not who you are."

"You are the author of your life and everyday you write your own story."

"Do the thing you think you cannot do."

"You become what you think about and tell yourself all day."

"The way we think tomorrow depends largely on what we are thinking today."

"Worry a little bit everyday and in a lifetime you lose a couple of years. If something is wrong, fix it if you can. But train yourself not to worry. Worry never fixes anything."

"See yourself living in abundance and you will attract it. It works everytime, with every person... If you can see it in your mind you're going to hold it in your hand." -Bob proctor.

"You become what you think about most, but you also attract what you think about most." -John Assaraf

"Whatever is coming into your life you are attracting into your life. And it's attracted to you by virtue of the images you're holding in your mind. It's what you're thinking. Whatever is going on in your mind you are attracting to you." -Rhonda Byrne

"Your life is a mirror of the dominant thoughts you think."-Rhonda Bryne

"We see things not as they are, but as WE are."



Fullfill Your Purpose



Selfworth

  1. Only talk positively about yourself. Compliment yourself everyday.
  2. Make a list titled "Things I Have Accomplished Already."
  3. Listen to inspirational music.
  4. Associate with people who bring you up.
  5. Walking faster makes you feel and look more confident.
  6. Get dressed up to increase your self-confidence.
  7. Stand up straight.
  8. Compliment others. Look for the best in others and you can find the best in yourself and attract it to you.
  9. Work out.
  10. Smile at everyone and even when you are alone. Smile when you are happy or sad. It creates good feeling endorphins.
  11. Count your many blessings. Name them one by one.
  12. Listen to these songs..."What Heaven Sees in You, Let It Begin, I Am His Daughter, Beautiful to Him, When You Look in the Mirror, Child of Light, Just as I Am" all located on www.pendletonmoms.blogspot.com under Quotes and Inspirational Pieces.

Quotes:
"Everything you do affects someone else." Everything you do makes a difference.

"If you want to know how much you matter to God, look at Christ with his arms outstretched on the cross, saying,"I love you this much, I would rather die than live without you."

"You have powers you never dreamed of. You can do things you never thought you could do. There is no limitations to what you can do except the limitations to what you cannot do. Don't think you cannot. Think you can."

"In our Father's eyes we are literally worth everything."

"Be more concerned about what God thinks about you, then what others think about you."

"God is your Father in Heaven. Jesus is your brother. You are royalty and someday you will be a goddess. Uphold your family name"

"You may never know how much good you accomplish. Someone's life will be blessed by your efforts..."

"The type of person you are can influence whether or not other people choose eternal life."

"Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God."

"For you know who created you and there is only one of you. Never, in all the seventy billion humans who have walked this planet since the beginning of time has there ever been anyone exactly like you. Never, until the end of time, will there be another such as you...From your father, in his moment of supreme love, flowed countless seeds of love, more than four hundred million in number. All of them, as they swam within your mother, gave up the ghost and died. All except one. You! You alone persevered within the loving warmth of your mother's body, searching for your other half, a single cell from your mother so small that more than two million would be necessary to fill an acorn shell. Yet, despite impossible odds, on that vast ocean of darkness and disaster, you persevered, found that infinitesimal cell, joined with it, and began a new life. Your life."

"Many of us may feel that our lives are not very important to the entire scheme of things in the universe. The next time you begin to feel that you make little difference, consider all those whose lives would be different if you did not exist. Some of you may feel that others would be better off without you, but before you fall into that trap, remember you have influenced so many lives and so many lives were blessed because of you. You must not lose hope. You must not give up. You do make a difference. Your life has a profound impact on many others. None of us knows the future or how lives today will influence the future generations. But being good and doing good can make a profound difference."

"You are not an accident. Your birth was no mishap. Your parents may not have planned you, but God did. He was not at all surprised by your birth. In fact, he expected it. Long before you were conceived by your parents, you were conceived in the mind of God. He thought of you first. It is not fate, nor chance, nor luck, nor coincidence that you are breathing at this very moment. You are alive because God wanted to create you! The Bible says, "The Lord will fulfill his purpose for me." God prescribed every detail of your body. He deliberately chose your race, the color of your skin, your hair, and every other feature. He custom made your body just the way He wanted it. He also determined the natural talents you would possess and the uniqueness of your personality. The Bible says, "You know me inside and out, you know every bone in my body; You know exactly how I was made, bit by bit, how I was sculpted from nothing into something. "Because God made you for a reason, he also decided when you would be born and how long you would live. He planned the days of your life in advance, choosing the day of my life before I began to breathe. Every day was recorded in Your Book! God also planned where you'd be born and where you'd live for His purpose. God left no detail to chance. God decided how you would be born. Regardless of the circumstances of your birth or who your parents are, God had a plan in those two individuals possessed exactly the right genetic makeup to create the custom "you" he had in mind. They had the DNA God wanted to make you. Many children are unplanned by their parents, but they are not unplanned by God. God's purpose took into account human error, and even sin. God doesn't make mistakes. He has a reason for everything he creates. Every plant and every animal was planned by God, and every person was designed with a purpose in mind. God's motive for creating you was his love. God was thinking of you even before he made the world. In fact, that's why he created it! We are the most important thing God made. God made you so he could love you. God says, "I have carried you since you were born; I have taken care of you from your birth. Even when you are old, I will be the same. Even when your hair has turned gray, I will take care of you. I have made you and will take care of you."

Poem by Russell Kelfer
You are who you are for a reason.
You're part of an intricate plan.
You're a precious and perfect unique design,
Called God's special woman or man.

You look like you look for a reason.
Our God made no mistake.
He knit you together within the womb,
You're just what he wanted to make.

The parents you had were the ones he chose,
And no matter how you may feel,
They were custom designed with God's plan in mind,
And they bear the Master's seal.

No, that trauma you faced was not easy.
And God wept that it hurt you so;
But it was allowed to shape your heart
So that into his likeness you'd grow.

You are who you are for a reason,
You've been formed by the Master's rod.
You are who you are, beloved,
Because there is a God!


On the Night You Were Born by Nancy Tillman
"On the night you were born, the moon smiled with such wonder that the stars peeked in to see you and the night wind whispered, "Life will never be the same." Because there had never been anyone like you...ever in the world...So whenever you doubt just how special you are and you wonder who loves you, how much and how far, listen for geese honking high in the sky. (They're singing a song to remember you by.) Or notice the bears asleep at the zoo. (It's because they've been dancing all night for you!) Or drift off to sleep to the sound of the wind. (Listen closely...it's whispering your name again!) For never before in story or rhyme (not even once upon a time) has the world ever known a you, my friend, and it never will, not ever again..."

Morning and Evening Routines

With children, it's not long before our homes get trashed and our patience gets pushed to the limit.
I would think any mother would get tired of living in a zoo, surrounded by piles of clutter and out of control children.   I struggled with this for years and was tired of picking up the same messes everyday from a thankless job. I've read articles, talked to friends and mentors to figure out how they handle being a stay at home mom and not go insane.

I've done my research and have come up with a plan to get you and your family organized, home running smoothly, increase energy, and feel like their is more to life than loading dishes and folding laundry.  I have so many tips it may be overwhelming but will help you in so many ways.

The first main thing you need to do is ditch the schedule. There are too many unexpected things that happen in a day and hardly any freedom to be available to others, do something fun, or anything else if you are living by an hour by hour or min by min schedule. Instead create a Morning and Evening Routine and leave everything in between open. Here is an example of my daily morning routine:

6:00 AM Wake Up
Pray
Say 3 things you are grateful for
Motivational Quote, affirmation, uplifting music
Turn on Music
Turn on Lights
Make Bed
Tidy room
Yoga/ 7 Min Workout
Shower (I wash my hair at night,so in the morning i wear a shower cap) wash body,face
Get Completely Ready (teeth, makeup, hair, jewelry,clothes)
Wipe down bathroom (sinks,counters, toilets)
Take Laundry downstairs and start washer
Pets (feed, let dog out)
Drink Water
Take Vitamins/medications
Sweep
Check Calendar
Cuddle with Kids (wake them up, music, pray, lights on)
Have kids get dressed for school, make beds, brush teeth, hair, shoes
Unload Dishes while kids get dressed
Breakfast
Dishes to dishwasher
Wipe down Countertops and KitchenTable
Grab lunches and backpacks
Take Kids to School


Morning Tips: 

1.I am not a morning person cause I like my sleep,but it is important that you wake up ATLEAST 15 min before everyone else. You want to make sure you get everything you can done that would make it harder or impossible to do when the kids wake up. it's easier if the kids wake up to a clean house because you can just concentrate on your kids and make sure they pick up their mess instead of trying to clean one room while your child destroys another. If you are a heavy sleeper, I recommend the Sonic Boom Alarm Clock. It vibrates your pillow and is loud to wake you up.Also the Nightstand App on iPad, and SleepTimezzz are also great apps you need to check out for yourself.

2. remind yourself how grateful you are every day. as soon as you wake up, list 3 things you are grateful for.

3. Avoid electronics till after you drop kids off at school. INSTEAD read inspirational material, quotes, affirmations, funny videos, to help with those good feeling endorphins. No news, tv, computer, phone which will get you hooked. Just wait till after the kids go to school. The first hour is the most important part of your day.

4. Music and lights will get you moving. if you are afraid of waking up someone then put headphones on.

5. Make Your Bed so you are not tempted to get back inside it and it makes your room look clean.

6. I got a Yoga app for ipad and 7 minute app for iPhone which is a quick easy way to get energy to your day.

7.  Take care of your face and take pride in how you look. Skip the sweats, do your makeup and hair, brush your teeth. A study showed that women who wore make up 85% had their moods lifted.

8. On your way downstairs, take the laundry with you and start a load of laundry.

9. Stay Hydrated. use the daily water app on your iPad to keep track of how much water you drink which should be 8 glasses or more.

10. Take multivitamins or any other meds you need

11. check calendar to see today's events and MIT (most important tasks)

12. I love spending a minute cuddling with my boys and just enjoying their restfulness. slowly wake them up,,open curtains, say prayers with them, and turn on music to get them going. Give them 2 min warnings when it's time to leave.

13. Don't overload them with two many chores. making their bed and tiding their room is sufficient u til they get home.

14. Eat quick breakfast like cereal, grains, yogurt

15. have everyone put dishes into sink when they are done.

16. Clean up any spills, grab lunches, backpacks and take kids to school.

17. don't forget to say I love you and thank you if they were helpful and on time.



EVENING ROUTINE


1. Pick up the kids from school. I switch off with 2 other moms, carpooling kids to school so this is not a daily thing for me. But if you have time to walk them to school, it is great exercise and great bonding time together!

2. When your children get home from school, make sure they do their homework and help them when they need it. Have them take out all their paperwork from their backpack and hang it up in a designated area so it is not laying on the floor or have a hard time finding it in the morning. I check all his paperwork for any submission slips or flyers for things going on at the school that they might forget to tell you about. I check his homework and make sure it is completed and correct and then have them put it in their backpack and sign any paperwork.

3. I let them play for a little bit before doing their chores since it can be exhausting after just doing homework. While they play, I switch over the laundry.

4. Chores for Kids. There are a few great ways to motivate kids to do chores. Some chores they need to do no matter what, like making their bed, putting toys away before bed, brushing their teeth and cleaning their room. You can have a jar of chores they can pick from to pick a few extra chores to do each day that they can choose. Then you can have harder chores that maybe you dont want to do, where they can earn money and save. If they leave toys out before bed, I pick them up and put them in a bin where they cant reach them and they have to do a chore of my choosing to get it back the next day. Any toys that are left in the bin after a week, get donated.

5. Playtime after chores for kids and then make sure they pick up toys before dinner.

6. I cook dinner while they play. I LOVE Emeals!! you can sign up for it, i did it with groupon, and they send you a years worth of meals, one week at a time based on the sales going on at the grocery store you shop at and the food is amazing and easy to make. We love the different variety and have loved every meal. it takes out all the work of making a grocery list or planning meals for the week.

7. Have family help set the table and eat dinner together at the table so you can have time together and talk about your day and learn what kids are doing in school or learn more about them.

8. After dinner, dishes go straight in the dishwasher. Everyone puts their own dishes in the sink. Anything left over, you can switch days on who does the dishes.

9. We take about 15-30 min to relax before we all go on a family walk. Great bonding time and exercise.

10. Kids take a bath, brush teeth, hair,  go potty, and get their pajamas on. If the kids are old enough they can set out their clothes for tomorrow themselves, otherwise you can set out the clothes for them to make it easier and faster in the morning.

11. Read 3 books, sing 2 songs, and then say prayers with my boys before tucking them in and kissing them goodnight and of course the last thing i say is i love you. Then lights are out.

12. Now that the kids are in bed, I go around the house and tidy up, pack lunches, and start the dishwasher. No dishes should be left in the sink or clothes in the washer over night.

13. Write MIT (most important tasks) for tomorrow and kids chores, write a quote on a white board on kitchen or front door so they have something to think about during the day.

14. Budget your money for the day, and check calendar and forecast for the next day.

15. Write in a journal or (our child) app about what you did that day and add picks to remember.

16. Read Scriptures

17. Take a shower, blow dry hair, wash face, take out contacts and pick out clothes for tomorrow.

18. Tidy room

19. Open blinds to help wake you up in the morning using natural light

20. Set alarms

21. Think about atleast 3 things you were grateful for that day.

22. Say prayers and go to sleep

Hope this helps!
Sincerely, Mom